F: is For Family and Friends

F: is For Family and Friends

Life is a roll of the dice. I mean we have no idea what the new baby will be like, or what she’ll be like in 20 years. Tomorrow is not guaranteed but we plan on it. There’s even a commercial on TV that is filled with the word, “Tomorrow.”

Our ties to friends and family can tug us off schedule at a moment’s notice. About a year ago our phone rang at 3:00 AM. The familiar voice on the other end of the line started out, “Dad I’m sorry to call at three in the morning but I have to take M to the hospital.” Son-in-law had injured his shoulder a few days earlier and she needed us to go over and watch the baby. In a later conversation I assured her she was welcome to call any hour.

SIL’s injury also meant that we had to pick up the slack on childcare since he was on paternity leave. While the arm was being treated he could not pick up his own child. The upside is we spent more time with our granddaughter, a real blessing.

I spent a few months being with a close friend when he was ill with cancer. How could he be the one dying? I was the slacker who was overweight and out of shape. He had always been there to help me so I was glad to return the favor.

Now a friend is dealing with the kind of life and death issues nobody wants to face but are a part of life.

We carry these lines of contact with friends and relatives in part to share the good times. My daughter just sold her house, and both girls like their jobs. My asthma etc. presents some challenges to travel but Linda has adapted. Some vacations together, some apart. We can work it out.

In the natural order of things we have close contact with some family and friends, and not so close with others. The real allure of FB is the ability to connect quickly and easily. My first day on FB I learned a friend was moving to Texas. We had been in a group of 4 couples so a few FB messages and phone calls later we had a going away party planned and set for the weekend.

Is there a message for the readers? No, this is what was on my mind and the issues are universal.Chess 2


4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Mandy Wallace
    Oct 11, 2014 @ 21:43:42

    It’s nice your daughter has you for support with kids. One of the reasons I keep putting kids off, I think sometimes, is a lack of support. What do you do when kids need you but there’s an emergency? Ugh.



  2. terryredman
    Oct 12, 2014 @ 01:01:45

    at this point we are pretty much available when they call. Both sets of grandparents, both daughters live in town so there is a pool of people. we like helping out.



  3. heyannis
    Oct 13, 2014 @ 04:14:17

    The good news is you and Linda are compassionate people who can “go with the flow.” Being flexible is a virtue. Helping out when friends and family need you makes you life savers. xoA



  4. Anna Stewart
    Oct 13, 2014 @ 07:32:00

    It’s great that you are both available to be the extra child-care option…and to see the benefit for you in doing so…more time with the grand-baby and likely a closer relationship as she grows older. Friends and family are the framework of life…or they are for me…how you adapt to the issues that come up for them and you helps to define those bonds moving forward. Sounds like you’ve got some really good connections. Lucky them…and lucky you. Because I tend to believe blessings are returned. 🙂



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